Shame is a powerful emotion that can lead to feelings of weakness and self-consciousness in front of others. It may be in relation to only a part of our body (e.g., big/small breasts, facial features, etc.) or with the whole body. We may feel others don’t like us. It may cause us to avoid certain situations or believe we need to change to be accepted. However, hiding away to manage shame can be counterproductive, as it makes it harder to overcome. Embracing vulnerability and seeking support can lead to healing and growth.
Many people try to manage this emotion by hiding away. In that sense, shame is associated with fear of rejection. Different studies have shown that it is actually a very bad idea. The more we hide away, the more difficult it becomes to get out of our hideout.
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Beauty ideals can set unrealistic standards, impacting our self-perception and self-worth. Our bodies reflect how we feel about ourselves and our place in the world. This feeling of not fitting in can stem from various personal traits, not just physical appearance. Shame, driven by fear of rejection and even anger, can result from these feelings of inadequacy. Embracing our uniqueness and seeking support can foster self-acceptance and healing.
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The impact of negative messages received in our youth can be long-lasting, affecting our beliefs and opportunities throughout life. Many have experienced this suffering, missing out on personal and professional growth. In my research, I’ve witnessed such stories of decades of suffering. Since then, I’ve helped many overcome their concerns. If you’re struggling, I can support you on your journey towards healing and self-growth too. Together, we can work towards a brighter future. Make your life an enjoyable ride.Learn More
Fear and anxiety are both like alarm signs that turn on different safety measures. Fear of rejection may lead to avoidant behavior, which makes things worse. Try therapy and enjoy your life.Learn More
Guilt is an emotion that most people learn during their normal childhood social development. It works like an alarm to let us re-examine our behavior, learn from it, and restore any relationships damaged due to our wrongdoings.
Is it healthy?
As most things in life, there is a pang of good guilt and a bad one:
-The healthy guilt is an alarm that allows us to learn from our actions and move on.
-The unhealthy guilt is more like an obsessive pinprick.
It becomes an unhealthy emotion when there is no lesson to learn and no way out of guilt. It does not drive us to rebuild our relationships. This unhealthy emotion has a lot of shame. Being shame that distressing feeling of how bad we are. In shame it is about the individual, but it no longer is about the moral individual in its environment like guilt is. Guilt is a socially driven emotion.
Our emotions can influence how we act and think. If we feel bad about ourselves, we usually withdraw from social life. We can sometimes misbehave; and use any excuse to corroborate our bad feelings, especially when we are sure others wrong us (when sometimes it may be the other way around).
Be skeptical about your feelings of guilt, especially if there is no lesson in it. It can be a sign of depression or another condition. If this affects your social, academic, and professional functioning, call (314) 714-5227 and start feeling better.Learn More
Hope can be a powerful coping mechanism for individuals facing stressful situations. It can provide a sense of optimism and a belief that things will improve, even in the face of adversity.
Research has shown that hope can have a number of positive effects, including improving physical and mental health, increasing resilience, and reducing stress and anxiety. When individuals have hope, they may feel more motivated to take action to improve their situation and may be more likely to engage in positive coping strategies.
Of course, it’s important to note that hope alone may not be enough to completely alleviate the stress of a difficult situation. However, cultivating hope can be an important tool in building resilience and maintaining a positive outlook, which can in turn help individuals to better manage their stress and improve their overall well-being.
Here are some ways to cultivate hope
- Cultivate a positive mindset: Focus on the positive aspects of your situation, rather than dwelling on the negative. Try to see the potential for growth and improvement, and look for opportunities to learn and develop new skills.
- Practice self-care: Take care of yourself both physically and mentally. This can include things like getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and engaging in activities that you enjoy.
- Seek support from others: Connect with friends, family members, or a support group who can provide emotional support and encouragement. Talking to someone who has been through a similar experience can also be helpful.
- Set goals: Set small, achievable goals for yourself that can help you to make progress and stay motivated. Celebrate your accomplishments along the way.
- Engage in meaningful activities: Find activities that bring you a sense of purpose and meaning. This might include volunteering, pursuing a hobby, or spending time with loved ones.
- Practice gratitude: Focus on what you are grateful for in your life, even in the midst of difficult times. This can help to shift your perspective and bring a sense of hope and positivity.
Hope is a sense of optimistic outlook. It has the power of appease a threatening situation. So, next time you are feeling stressed, remember first to take a deep breath, then practice hope.
Psycho-Neuro-Inmuno-Endocrinology PNIE & Stress
Have you gone to the doctor and left feeling awkward? Have you ever felt your doctor cannot understand you? Symptoms come from peripheral and central organic processes. Disease-based medicine has focused on peripheral triggers, such as the injury or damage of an organ or tissue. Only recently have Psycho-neuro-inmuno-endocrinology theorists develop an understanding of central somatic triggers. Central alterations may result in increased production, perception, and intensity of somatic symptoms. One key finding is the activation of brain inflammatory neuroimmune pathways or activation of the brain cytokine system; the enteroception; the somatic amplification and the central sensibility that happens under stress.
Our bodies are permanently managing diverse environmental and internal factors to maintain balance, stability and continuity. Our belief system is key at the time of interpreting whether an event is threatening or not, whether we pay attention or let it go, whether we accept or deny the existence of an element. How we see our world is the first step to managing stress.
Have you ever felt your doctor cannot understand you?
Many suffer from inexplicable conditions for years. They feel helpless, like their doctors cannot understand them. Their symptoms do not follow classic medical illness typology. So, they leave the doctor’s office with a pad on the shoulder as if their symptoms were nothing but emotional suffering. In reality, we are all constantly experiencing more than one emotion. We are emotional beings, even when we try to turn coherent the many contradictory factors, roles and demands happening at once in our life.
Some symptoms are not clear, multidisciplinary PNIE work can help where others have failed
Selyee (1907-1982) borrowed the word stress from an engineer friend. Stress is a physical quantity that expresses the internal forces that neighboring particles of a continuous material exert on each other, while strain is the measure of the deformation of the material (Unionpedia). Stress is what activates the inflammatory neuroimmune system during normal adaptation. On the other hand, we call distress when the effort made for adaptation becomes overpowering and unhealthy. Stress and distress involve suffering. One is within normal realm, while the other one involves a chronic physiologic exertion. Our body is constantly managing diverse environmental and internal factors to maintain healthy balance. Our view of the world is a key starting point. How are you managing your stress these days?
Gratitude is more than a yearly tradition. It is a celebration that can happen anytime, during scarcity or victory. In Roman era, gratitude practice involved some type of sacrifice. Sacrifice was not only an essential part of the rite, but also obligatory, and woe to any conquerors who fail to thank God for their victory. Gratitude is associated with optimism.
Gratitude in Psychology
Freud used the word “gratitude” and “grateful” often in his writing. Nevertheless, gratitude was not a prominent concept until Melanie Klein wrote her book, Envy and Gratitude. She describes gratitude as the feeling a child has in relation to that first object love, the mother, the caregiver. The infant first experience mother- and her substitutes- as the maternal arms that hold and protect (what M. Klein called the “good breast”). If this experience is securely inscribed as positive, then, love for the mother will preserve despite her imperfections. Such love will then foster confidence. Gratitude is associated with that first experience of comfort. It helps overcome shortcomings, assists in making reparations and leads to peaceful states of mind.
Thanksgiving is spent with those family members that we have by choice or birthright. It is a time in the year when people recognize each other’s good deeds, and celebrate their lives as a positive contribution. We aim to feel a glee of comfort. We wish joy, peace, health, and prosperity for all.
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