Kindness Matters – The Awesome Feeling of Being Kind
For years we have worried about bullying. Now it seems we cannot go a day without listening to the words “cancel culture.” In cancel culture, a negative aspect is pointed out, and the person turns into something horrifying, evil, and untouchable. In my book, I wrote about how shaming required an act of sacrifice for purification. Cancelation is society’s purification practice. It is not new. Years ago, many towns had “poor laws” that would keep streets clean and free from ugly people.
“Beauty is the variety of qualities for effective attractiveness and alliance” (Roth, 2020, p. 73). Every group has referential codes that we need to accept for admittance. Unfortunately, many live hiding aspects of themselves in an effort to fit in. In cancel culture, even those that feel well-adjusted might end up rejected or shunned.
Have you ever been opinionated before saying hello?
Each of us has the opportunity to hold off on judgment.
As I said, purification practices are not new. “Untouchables existed historically in many different countries. The most well-known is the isolation of the leper. France had the untouchable Cagots. The Hindu caste system had the Dalits. In Japan, the Buraku” (Roth, 2020). But ugliness is not limited to aesthetics. Anyone can face ostracism by expressing an idea considered antiestablishment, which seems to move the cancel culture of nowadays.
Is your opinion constructive and helpful?
We all want to feel welcome, integrated, and protected. We want to feel our social environment is a safe playground. Trusting others will let us be whichever way we want without dreading an eroding judgmental attitude is a two-way practice. We have to give to receive.
Personally, I enjoy going to my coffee shop where the barista knows who I am and makes me feel welcome. Wouldn’t you enjoy going through the day receiving the accepting gaze and praise from others? We can all make it happen. Just practice the virtue of kindness. Apply the power of an open, friendly smile to make your life and our world a better place for all.